26 ”She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.”
Proverbs 31:26-27

Notice first, the tense of ‘is’. Not ‘was’, nor ‘could be’, but ‘is’. She is the law of kindness. As a human, we have made mistakes, said things that we are not proud of, but with Jesus, her tongue is the law of kindness.
I, too, have fallen victim to blurting out something I should not have. As soon as the words come out, I want them to jump right back into my mouth; most likely, they were not words of wisdom. I usually have trouble forgiving myself after I say something like that. I go over and over in my brain how I could have handled the situation better, how I could have been so foolish. It is hard to think that Jesus, who never said anything in vain, could love me the way that I am; even though I blurt out some thoughtless words. With Jesus, we are forgiven, we are his children, we are like Him. We don’t have to feel worthless after we make mistakes; we can open our mouths with wisdom, apologize to those we have hurt, and accept the forgiveness of the Lord!
As verse 27 says, and as women of the Lord, we should not eat the bread of idleness, even when it comes to our thoughts; we should not let the words roll off our tongue that should have stayed in our head. We need to work together to build each other up in the church, in our households, and within ourselves. Jesus wants to give us the wisdom to speak kindly to one another; we need, sometimes, to stop talking so we can hear Him. For it is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me, so let’s speak like it!

“I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.” Galatians 2:20